A Word for the Weary this Christmas
It’s been almost exactly a year since I last shared in this space and although much has happened since then, I’m ashamed to confess that it’s Christmas time yet again and your girl is in anything but the Christmas spirit. It’s all happening too quickly, I think.
A romantic at heart, I desperately want to feel the wonder of Christ’s birth afresh each and every year. As the weather turns cold, I want my heart to be warmed by the richness of Christmas hymns like Angels We Have Heard on High and O, Little Town of Bethlehem (Nat King Cole version only please and thank you.) By the time the very first Christmas lights go up, I want to be fully immersed in the worship and wonder that comes with the Advent season and reminded again of God’s great love for me and for His world.
This year, however, I feel tired and dry. 2022 wore me all the way out, and I think I’m just ready for it to be over. Amen, anyone?
I know I’m not alone. In the words of the culture, sometimes “life be lifing.” The burdens we all carry weigh heavy on us for no reason other than the fact that we are fallen creatures living in a fallen world. At times, fractured relationships, seasons of suffering and the unsatisfied longings of our souls add unexpected sorrow with seemingly no expiration date. Financial hardships, unemployment and work stressors often arrive without notice, bringing with them unanticipated overwhelm and anxiety. Death reminds us of those we have lost, and grief becomes an unwelcome friend. In one way or another, life comes for us all.
The older I get, the more I recognize the pattern: life’s highs get surprisingly higher and sweeter, even as the lows get shockingly lower and more bitter. Every mountaintop season renews our confidence in God’s goodness, while each valley experience tempts us to withdraw from Him and distrust His good plans for our lives. Worse still, there is no Google Calendar invite that shows up to announce when the hard days are coming. One day, you look up and realize you’ve been in a valley season for days or weeks or months, and sometimes, you’ve pitched your tent in the hard places for years.
It is a strange thing to know the truth while experiencing life circumstances that challenge you to believe the exact opposite, and yet this is the tension we live in as Christ-followers. I know that God is omnipotent like I know my name and my birthday. I believe that He is all-satisfying and the only answer for my tired, restless soul. I’ve memorized the Scriptures that remind me of His nearness, His goodness and His love.
And yet, sometimes the weariness wins.
In fact, just last night, as we were putting ornaments on our Christmas tree, a family tradition I look forward to every year, I reached the very end of my patience with our boys, who were so thrilled by even the thought of Christmas that they could hardly keep their feet on the ground (and no, that’s not a metaphor.) Instead of the peaceful, joyful evening I envisioned, utter chaos and all-out anarchy ensued. Fragile decorations were carelessly dropped. Our furniture became a playground. Arguing and whining drowned out my perfectly curated Christmas playlist. In short, our kids were … well, kids. And being the saved, sanctified and filled with the Holy Ghost mother I am, I, in turn, fumed, lectured and sent them to bed without pie. It was a disaster, and hopefully not a core memory. I was too tired to be a grace-filled parent in those moments. I had nothing left to give.
The end of the evening found me beside my bed in a heap of tears, unable to verbalize anything other than the burning question in my soul:
“God, do you see me here? Do you even care?”
It certainly would not be the first time I reached the end of my physical, emotional and spiritual strength this year. I was weary, again. In need of comfort, again. Struggling to believe, again.
As I sat with my tears in the silence, a melody came to mind from a hymn I’ve known since childhood titled, It Is Well With My Soul. Internally, I scoffed. It was far from well with my soul in those emotionally charged moments. In fact, that was without a doubt the very last song I wanted to think about. But surprisingly, it was not the well-loved chorus that was impressed on me, but rather this verse:
Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come, let this blessed assurance control, that Christ has regarded my helpless estate, and hath shed His own blood for my soul.
Do you see it? Christ has regarded my helpless estate! Right there on the floor in the middle of my fatigue and obvious shortcomings, God reminded me that my helplessness is not hidden from Him. He is not a stranger to my weariness. But what’s more, He went to the ends of himself to do something about it. He is far from a casual observer of my suffering. No, He endured a public execution so that I could have the comfort of Emmanuel – God with me – in this moment. He became weak, so that I could experience His sufficient grace – His power made perfect in my weakness.
Listen, if you’re struggling to feel the wonder of the manger this Christmas, may I suggest you look to the cross? Christmas is the story of the incarnation – a beautiful, wondrous mystery (Christ was born for us) – made only more beautiful and sacred and scandalous by the reality of the cross (Christ was born to die for us). Imagine.
I can’t be the only one who needs a reminder that God is not surprised by my weariness this Christmas. If your soul resembles a wilderness more than a well-tended garden, know that God is not intimidated by the desolate places of your life. He is not wagging the finger at you or shaming you for feeling worn out. He’s not shaking His head because you failed to be Christian of the year.
Haven’t had a quiet time in weeks? He knows. Been preoccupied with your coping mechanism of choice? He sees. Can’t find the words to pray? He hears what you’re not saying.
And you’re in good company. That very first Christmas, Israel was not a picture of resolute strength and unwavering hope in God. She was weary. Under Roman occupation, with no word from any prophet in centuries, God’s people had been in the valley for a long time, some their entire lifetime, and they were longing for liberation. To make matters worse, the religious leaders of the day embodied legalism, heaping up an encyclopedia worth of rules and regulations that seemingly pushed righteousness even farther out of reach. And in response, being the perfect, loving Heavenly Father He is, God came.
It was in the weariness that hope was born.
And since we’re already talking Christmas hymns (I love me some hymns!), consider this one:
“A thrill of hope, the weary world rejoices, for yonder breaks a new and glorious morn.” (Joy to the World)
If you’re like me this year, if you’re exhausted by the thought of buying the gifts and making the holidays yet again (I’m looking at you moms) … if you’re wearied by your life circumstances or the inner groanings of your soul, hear me. The true heart of Christmas is not a feeling, but this reality:
Christ came into a weary world, so a weary world could come into Him.
At the height of His earthly ministry, Christ issued this invitation, which has long been my lifeline:
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30).”
To the weary soul, Christ offers rest. In exchange for our weakness, He offers His gentleness and humility. When our weariness pushes us into the arms of our perfect, Holy, loving Father, the weariness does not win. When our life circumstances force us to the end of ourselves so that we plunge into the limitless depths of His grace, we find the rest our souls are longing for.
And the only prerequisite is that we come.
Oh, that we would come this Christmas. And as we turn our eyes upon the Savior, may we delight to find that His eyes are indeed turned upon us.